Dilemma

Dear Abby,

What do you do when someone you love is lying to you? (Not Eric.) I think this person really loves me, and may even mistakenly believe that lying is protecting me. I'm having trouble knowing how to proceed. I'm so upfront, and honest probably to a fault, so I can't pretend that nothing's wrong. It's not possible for me to avoid this person indefinitely. I want this person to know that he or she is loved unconditionally, and that I would defend him or her against the whole world, even knowing this.
But it hurts my heart. I hate being called "best friend," or "favorite sister" or "number one choice of person to have coffee with," or whatever, because it grates. I wonder if it's all untrue?

So, Abby...what do you suggest? Bitterness and distrust are not options. Biting my tongue will only last so long. Putting on my big-girl panties and getting over it won't change the fact that I feel like the relationship is broken. Any suggestions for mending and restoring something that really matters to me? I don't want to find a new family/friend.

Signed,
Not born yesterday, but still wants to give the benefit of the doubt, Bonehead.

(Seriously, email me if you have suggestions. I'm troubled. I was watching New Moon last night for the third time, and ALMOST switched to Team Jacob after Edward lies to Bella, supposedly to protect her--which, of course, is practically blasphemy if you know me. I heart Edward for all of undead eternity. :-) But just. tell. the. truth. for crying out loud....) Thanks! (grin)